A psychotherapist once said to me that the human fabric was very tough. That it took so much to change a behavior. Even if the person he was trying to help wished for it ever so much.

In Buddhist circles, there is often talk about how much work one has to do before reaching enlightenment, or awakening. A few teaches ventures to say that there is no work involved at all, that you can become wise in a brief moment. What are you waiting for?

There is a reluctance to change. And so there is.

This reluctance is preventing you from change. It is a firmness that you think makes you the person you are. A fear that if you let go and change some ideas that you would unravel, become unattractive, lose your job, lose friends and so on.

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